How far should a woman go to pursue the man of her dreams? Author Chandra Adams answers that question and more in her upcoming book signing at Classic One Books in Los Angeles, CA on March 6, 2010.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Dealing With the Race Factor (from Yahoo!)
What would Basilah think about this?
Dating 101: Dealing With the Race Factor
How to cope with four common obstacles in interracial dating
By dating editor Arnold Chao Exclusive to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Jun 5, 2009
A recent study on racial preferences of online daters provides some interesting findings. Based on profile-searching criteria set by singles using Yahoo! Personals, the UCI case study reveals that gender plays an important role in interracial preferences:
Asian American men are the least preferred mate for Caucasian women, and African American women bear the brunt of discrimination from Caucasian men. UCI researchers say that "the stereotypical images of masculinity and femininity shape dating choices" and are a contributing factor.
The cross-cultural revolution is not going to be launched on the Internet dating scene, where people often follow racial stereotypes when looking for love, the researchers said.
In spite of these findings, there's always an exception to the norm, and I should know as an ABC (American-Born Chinese) who met and married another type of ABC (American Brazilian Caucasian -- yes, I just made that up). Like any couple we've had our ups and downs, but we've somehow managed to bond well for almost a decade.
For those of you involved with a date -- or mate -- of a different race, check out these obstacles of interracial dating and ways to overcome them.
Dating Obstacle #1. The Traditionalists
I've encountered several people who possess strong opinions about interracial dating: A South African told me that people should date within their own race; my Korean American friend found it inconceivable to betroth a white woman; some Asian guys I've met told me they loathe competing with white guys to woo Asian bachelorettes.
Yes, the resistance against interracial dating persists, even in the diverse San Francisco Bay Area where I live. You should consider that citizens in most U.S. states were legally banned from marrying outside of their race until 1967.
How do you cope?
Surround yourself with pals who tolerate diversity. As individuals, we have an innate desire to be understood; and as an interracial couple, the desire remains the same. You must learn to accept adversity and not let it influence your individual judgment. The acceptance you receive from a circle of friends strips away your sensitivity to snide comments that oppose your open dating preferences.
Dating Obstacle #2. The Stereotypes From Mass Media
Can you blame the TV producers and advertisers for playing it safe by catering to the majority? After all, they measure what appeals to a mass audience and go with what we're familiar with. It's no mystery that stereotyping the population is much easier than representing eclectic subgroups within our population. As an expected result of this, the general public absorbs oversimplified images of various ethnic groups -- and how they pair up -- in every media imaginable.
How do you cope?
Recognizing the biased reality of the media business in itself resolves much of the adverse impact of broadcasted stereotypes. Avoid "keeping up with the Joneses" and don't think you have to date like all the idealized couples the generic media fodder has fed you. Boil your beliefs down to what really matters to you, and you'll become stereotype-resistant.
Dating Obstacle #3. The Offensive Family Member
It happens: You'll attend a family gathering where your estranged uncle shows that he may not be as culturally enlightened as the rest of your family. The off-color jokes spew out of his mouth. He snickers. You're in shock. Your significant other is in shock. The tension builds while you attempt to cool the blood that boils within you.
How do you cope?
Realize that there may always be a family member, or friend, who has trouble thinking before uttering insensitive opinions or bluntly racist remarks. Prepare for these confrontations. Let that person know if you think his/her comments are offensive, and choose honest yet eloquent ways to respond. Practice what you'll say and when you'll say it -- so when the situation happens, you won't let your emotions get the best of you. If this person is worth dealing with, he/she will respect your straightforwardness.
Silence will only prolong the issue. Share your thoughts to show that you care about how you interact with everyone, and vice versa. This is not the time to be shy. Demand respect. You deserve it.
Dating Obstacle #4. The Gazers
I know. It gets old. Not everybody is used to seeing an interracial couple. People will stare at you. They may even display a frown or a furrowed brow.
How do you cope?
Ignore the natural response of attempting to read their minds. Who knows what they're thinking when they stare: Maybe they admire you two as a couple, or they like your threads, or they just haven't seen your "kind" before, or they're waiting for you two to show some affection so they can label you as a couple rather than friends. It's pointless to keep wondering.
Instead, imagine you're a celebrity. In fact, you are. You might well be the spectacle of the day for them. Thrive and celebrate your uniqueness. These public encounters add flavor to the otherwise bland experiences of their lives. You're simply desensitizing them to the notion of colorblind dating. Sooner or later, they won't look twice ... because they've seen it before.
Arnold Chao, a former social worker with a degree in psychology, collaborates with dozens of authors and dating coaches to provide expert relationship advice. He also writes for The Spark and moonlights as a visual artist at arnisto.com.
Dating 101: Dealing With the Race Factor
How to cope with four common obstacles in interracial dating
By dating editor Arnold Chao Exclusive to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: Jun 5, 2009
A recent study on racial preferences of online daters provides some interesting findings. Based on profile-searching criteria set by singles using Yahoo! Personals, the UCI case study reveals that gender plays an important role in interracial preferences:
Asian American men are the least preferred mate for Caucasian women, and African American women bear the brunt of discrimination from Caucasian men. UCI researchers say that "the stereotypical images of masculinity and femininity shape dating choices" and are a contributing factor.
The cross-cultural revolution is not going to be launched on the Internet dating scene, where people often follow racial stereotypes when looking for love, the researchers said.
In spite of these findings, there's always an exception to the norm, and I should know as an ABC (American-Born Chinese) who met and married another type of ABC (American Brazilian Caucasian -- yes, I just made that up). Like any couple we've had our ups and downs, but we've somehow managed to bond well for almost a decade.
For those of you involved with a date -- or mate -- of a different race, check out these obstacles of interracial dating and ways to overcome them.
Dating Obstacle #1. The Traditionalists
I've encountered several people who possess strong opinions about interracial dating: A South African told me that people should date within their own race; my Korean American friend found it inconceivable to betroth a white woman; some Asian guys I've met told me they loathe competing with white guys to woo Asian bachelorettes.
Yes, the resistance against interracial dating persists, even in the diverse San Francisco Bay Area where I live. You should consider that citizens in most U.S. states were legally banned from marrying outside of their race until 1967.
How do you cope?
Surround yourself with pals who tolerate diversity. As individuals, we have an innate desire to be understood; and as an interracial couple, the desire remains the same. You must learn to accept adversity and not let it influence your individual judgment. The acceptance you receive from a circle of friends strips away your sensitivity to snide comments that oppose your open dating preferences.
Dating Obstacle #2. The Stereotypes From Mass Media
Can you blame the TV producers and advertisers for playing it safe by catering to the majority? After all, they measure what appeals to a mass audience and go with what we're familiar with. It's no mystery that stereotyping the population is much easier than representing eclectic subgroups within our population. As an expected result of this, the general public absorbs oversimplified images of various ethnic groups -- and how they pair up -- in every media imaginable.
How do you cope?
Recognizing the biased reality of the media business in itself resolves much of the adverse impact of broadcasted stereotypes. Avoid "keeping up with the Joneses" and don't think you have to date like all the idealized couples the generic media fodder has fed you. Boil your beliefs down to what really matters to you, and you'll become stereotype-resistant.
Dating Obstacle #3. The Offensive Family Member
It happens: You'll attend a family gathering where your estranged uncle shows that he may not be as culturally enlightened as the rest of your family. The off-color jokes spew out of his mouth. He snickers. You're in shock. Your significant other is in shock. The tension builds while you attempt to cool the blood that boils within you.
How do you cope?
Realize that there may always be a family member, or friend, who has trouble thinking before uttering insensitive opinions or bluntly racist remarks. Prepare for these confrontations. Let that person know if you think his/her comments are offensive, and choose honest yet eloquent ways to respond. Practice what you'll say and when you'll say it -- so when the situation happens, you won't let your emotions get the best of you. If this person is worth dealing with, he/she will respect your straightforwardness.
Silence will only prolong the issue. Share your thoughts to show that you care about how you interact with everyone, and vice versa. This is not the time to be shy. Demand respect. You deserve it.
Dating Obstacle #4. The Gazers
I know. It gets old. Not everybody is used to seeing an interracial couple. People will stare at you. They may even display a frown or a furrowed brow.
How do you cope?
Ignore the natural response of attempting to read their minds. Who knows what they're thinking when they stare: Maybe they admire you two as a couple, or they like your threads, or they just haven't seen your "kind" before, or they're waiting for you two to show some affection so they can label you as a couple rather than friends. It's pointless to keep wondering.
Instead, imagine you're a celebrity. In fact, you are. You might well be the spectacle of the day for them. Thrive and celebrate your uniqueness. These public encounters add flavor to the otherwise bland experiences of their lives. You're simply desensitizing them to the notion of colorblind dating. Sooner or later, they won't look twice ... because they've seen it before.
Arnold Chao, a former social worker with a degree in psychology, collaborates with dozens of authors and dating coaches to provide expert relationship advice. He also writes for The Spark and moonlights as a visual artist at arnisto.com.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
The Scorned Bachelorette in Paris
From the archives of Adrolite Press:
The other night I was talking to a good friend of mine who had just moved to North Carolina. We talk as if we still live only half an hour away from each other, so as I’m walking in the door, she is in the middle of watching The Bachelor: Paris. Well, more like the end, where apparently one of the bachelorettes got more than just a little irritated that she wasn’t invited back for the next round. That is one show I have refused to watch, but I’ll tell you, after what my friend described, I just had to check it out.
So I sat through the show – what a catch the new bachelor is for any young lady looking for love! He’s a doctor, wears that kind of smirk that lets you know that he KNOWS he looks good, and overall, seems like a decent human being. I mean, they even got one of his patients to explain how he saved her life after a heart attack, and she worked really very hard to sound sincere. They hugged after a staged check-up in his office and everything. Would you hug your doctor? And if he or she hugged you, would you consider suing them for sexual harassment? Oh, calm down I’m just joking around.
Anyhow, Allie G. was her name, and she really showed out. After Travis made his choices, she confronted him and questioned whether he found her attractive. I thought she was going to jump up and bite his ear off at any given moment and chew it while she demanded answers. Excuse me, sweetheart, have you ever heard of losing gracefully? And how about not looking so desperate in front of millions of people? She went on to mention to a couple of the other contestants that her eggs were rotting as she moaned and groaned about the rejection. Yuck. What an image, huh? I’m sure she still can’t figure out why Travis didn’t want to see her again.
If her behavior were any indication of things to come, I’d say that this is going to be a fight to the death for the remaining contestants. A good-looking doctor husband is what every little girl dreams of for herself and Barbie, and what just about every woman wishes for at some point in her life when she is looking for that special guy. Add to the mix some rapidly spoiling eggs, and oh, what a pathetic scene we have before us. Ms. G is obviously an accomplished woman and considered by most standards attractive. Either her family is pressuring her mercilessly to get hitched, or she has some screws loose. Which leads us to the question of why anyone would want their search for a mate televised. It would be a great move if you’re looking to break into modeling, acting, or you need some serious PR for your business venture or career. I’m not necessarily judging though – hey, whatever floats your boat, you know? But if you’re so serious about it that it warrants behaving like you need to be on medication, I’d say a safe bet would be to take it off-camera.
The good thing about it is that I don’t need to tune in next week, because she won’t be there to make a scene. I have enough reality shows to watch, and since American Idol is coming back, I have to devote the free time I have to watching that. Allie G., I hope you live this one down and really just kind of calm down.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
www.AdrolitePress.com
www.ChandraAdams.com
Posted on 1/26/06
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Down Low
When I first heard about the Down Low drama, I was watching a preview of the Oprah Winfrey Show. The author of “On The Down Low…” J.L. King, had information to share that every woman involved with a Black man should know. Like many of my friends I decided to tune in, only to hear what I had already been told by a couple of my friends, who are black and gay. J.L. King sat on Oprah’s couch and shocked many in the nation about this new wave of deception – and warned many to beware, because someone you love could be lying to you. Just because your man says he’s heterosexual, it doesn’t mean that he is.
Which raises a very important question with regard to promiscuity in general: What drives a human being to be unfaithful to the point of destroying another person’s health?
The San Francisco Chronicle recently published a trio of articles by Jason B. Johnson about the Down Low controversy and the spreading of HIV and AIDS in black communities . The first was a broad examination of the connection between AIDS, black men on the DL and the rising number of black women contracting HIV. Another article profiled the evolution of one black man from heterosexuality to homosexuality. The other, and most compelling story was one of a preacher husband who knowingly infected his wife with HIV.
Why are black communities so unwilling to tolerate open dialogue about homosexuality and AIDS? According to health and social advocates, ‘black men have had to front when it comes to the issue of homosexuality, because of the extremely strong stigma against it. In black churches, homosexuality has long been decried from the pulpit.’
If we keep going at the current rate, we won’t have any black communities to worry about. It is a real tragedy that black men and women haven’t figured out how to communicate with each other on real, life-threatening issues. So many factors come into play that I’m not really sure it’s fair to place the blame solely on the men. I do believe without a doubt that it’s wrong to be unfaithful, to lie about the status of your health when it comes to HIV and STD’s. Here’s a questions that needs to be raised – how many women lie and deceive themselves to maintain the status quo? Many of us, raised in very strict, Christian households, don’t have the advantage of knowing what’s going on with our mate who may be more worldly. For those ladies, my heart goes out to you. But then, quite similarly to their husbands and mates who like dudes, some women prefer to pretend that nothing’s going on. They may sense something’s not right, but by the time the kids have arrived, the Mercedes is parked in the garage, the four-bedroom house is in full effect and they’ve established a certain status in their churches and communities, it’s easy to just act like everything’s cool. Becoming increasingly more responsible for ourselves whether we are married, single, dating or otherwise is the order of the day. Regular HIV testing is essential for all of us these days. Before the condom comes off, find out who and what you’re dealing with.
One thing I’ve observed is that the only thing worse than lies are secrets. Secrets are like poison and hurt everyone, from the person that harbors one to the person that never had the benefit of knowing that pertinent information. I’d like to see more churches encourage people to be open and to be themselves, their whole selves, so that more individuals may be truly healed.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
ChandraAdams.com
Original date: May 2005
Which raises a very important question with regard to promiscuity in general: What drives a human being to be unfaithful to the point of destroying another person’s health?
The San Francisco Chronicle recently published a trio of articles by Jason B. Johnson about the Down Low controversy and the spreading of HIV and AIDS in black communities . The first was a broad examination of the connection between AIDS, black men on the DL and the rising number of black women contracting HIV. Another article profiled the evolution of one black man from heterosexuality to homosexuality. The other, and most compelling story was one of a preacher husband who knowingly infected his wife with HIV.
Why are black communities so unwilling to tolerate open dialogue about homosexuality and AIDS? According to health and social advocates, ‘black men have had to front when it comes to the issue of homosexuality, because of the extremely strong stigma against it. In black churches, homosexuality has long been decried from the pulpit.’
If we keep going at the current rate, we won’t have any black communities to worry about. It is a real tragedy that black men and women haven’t figured out how to communicate with each other on real, life-threatening issues. So many factors come into play that I’m not really sure it’s fair to place the blame solely on the men. I do believe without a doubt that it’s wrong to be unfaithful, to lie about the status of your health when it comes to HIV and STD’s. Here’s a questions that needs to be raised – how many women lie and deceive themselves to maintain the status quo? Many of us, raised in very strict, Christian households, don’t have the advantage of knowing what’s going on with our mate who may be more worldly. For those ladies, my heart goes out to you. But then, quite similarly to their husbands and mates who like dudes, some women prefer to pretend that nothing’s going on. They may sense something’s not right, but by the time the kids have arrived, the Mercedes is parked in the garage, the four-bedroom house is in full effect and they’ve established a certain status in their churches and communities, it’s easy to just act like everything’s cool. Becoming increasingly more responsible for ourselves whether we are married, single, dating or otherwise is the order of the day. Regular HIV testing is essential for all of us these days. Before the condom comes off, find out who and what you’re dealing with.
One thing I’ve observed is that the only thing worse than lies are secrets. Secrets are like poison and hurt everyone, from the person that harbors one to the person that never had the benefit of knowing that pertinent information. I’d like to see more churches encourage people to be open and to be themselves, their whole selves, so that more individuals may be truly healed.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
ChandraAdams.com
Original date: May 2005
Sunday, November 8, 2009
Single Black Women Got It Goin’ On
Says who? Well, a whole slew of statistics referenced by Yolanda Young in her editorial/opinion article in USA Today. Seems that single black women are enjoying better health than their married counterparts. Also according to this article, since those black couples who do marry tend to not stay together anyhow, we now ask, what’s the point? ‘If I marry Tyrone, I’ll probably average one more cold a year than I would if I was single, or Jamal could make my blood pressure go up, hmm, I think I’ll skip the wedding and go book that singles cruise I’ve been eyeing for some time now…’
Stop. I’m going to first let you in on a little secret about me, I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Statistics. Was I crazy for picking such major? Maybe. But I can tell you that numbers, statistics that is, can be manipulated to support any idea, cause, or opinion. I’m not saying this necessarily to shoot holes in the article Young wrote, but let me offer another viewpoint. Certainly it’s clear that the pickin’s are slim for any educated, independent single woman in America. And more so for black women, it’s true. But is that any reason to give up on your hopes of marrying, and marrying a black man for that matter? I don’t think so. My book Shades of Retribution covers the topic. I wouldn’t necessarily recommend any of the tactics that my heroines employed (unless you’re seeking lengthy jail time). But I would encourage all women considering marriage to spend a lot more time getting to know ourselves instead of allowing statistics to dictate our life decisions. I grew up witnessing several marriages between black women and black men that not only survived but thrived. Many sacrifices were made and sometimes the going got rough, but those couples hung in there and made it happen. I have friends in very happy marriages that will likely go the distance. Marriage is not for everyone. Is it for you? Let your heart decide and your actions guide you.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
www.adrolitepress.com
www.chandraadams.com
www.northbaymediareview.com
Rising Health Care Costs Part 2
Originally posted January 2006
According to Eurweb.com, Angela Bofill, at the age of 51 has suffered a stroke. To make matters worse, she does not have health insurance.
Just to give a little background on Ms. Bofill for those who may not be familiar with her, she is a jazz vocalist who made her debut in the late 1970’s. Some of her bigger hits include ‘This Time I’ll Be Sweeter’ and ‘I Try’ which was remade by Will Downing.
I became a fan of hers after over a decade of wishing I didn’t have to listen to her day in and day out. One of my older sisters played her music over and over and I just really couldn’t stand hearing her voice. Then, I think it was in 1992, I attended The Long Beach Jazz Festival where she was part of the lineup. Let me tell you, hearing someone sing live can really change your mind about the quality of their voice and their music. Ever since that festival, I have loved her songs and am saddened to hear of her illness. Unfortunately she is now paralyzed on one side and her friends are donating money and a benefit concert to help her cover those astronomical bills she will undoubtedly face.
I really hate to hear that one our great artists is suffering in such a manner. I am unsure of her financial situation and why she would not have health insurance for herself, but it is not doubt a shame that anyone in this country should have to go without. That may sound idealistic to some, but the reality of the situation is that this is the richest country in the world. I am very proud to be an American and I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else in this world, but let’s face some facts – the quality of life here appears to be diminishing and I point to the absence of health care for many people as a determining factor of this condition.
Sure, after I turned twenty-three I could no longer be included on my parent’s health plan so I went without for a while. When I was in graduate school, I had to go forego health insurance. At some point in many of our lives, we have to sacrifice and do without it for any number of reasons. But just because someone doesn’t have it, it shouldn’t mean that they might face financial ruin should he or she become ill.
My individual health plan is currently eating me alive, but I am gratefully insured. Thankfully, Angela Bofill has a number of friends who are apparently able to stage a benefit concert to help her with her needs. What’s happening to all of those people who won’t see proceeds from a benefit concert when they fall on hard times? It gives us all something to think about with our own situations and those of our neighbors. Our health in many ways is all we have, and our society must find better and more creative ways to assist all members in protecting it and that of their loved ones.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
www.AdrolitePress.com
www.ChandraAdams.com
According to Eurweb.com, Angela Bofill, at the age of 51 has suffered a stroke. To make matters worse, she does not have health insurance.
Just to give a little background on Ms. Bofill for those who may not be familiar with her, she is a jazz vocalist who made her debut in the late 1970’s. Some of her bigger hits include ‘This Time I’ll Be Sweeter’ and ‘I Try’ which was remade by Will Downing.
I became a fan of hers after over a decade of wishing I didn’t have to listen to her day in and day out. One of my older sisters played her music over and over and I just really couldn’t stand hearing her voice. Then, I think it was in 1992, I attended The Long Beach Jazz Festival where she was part of the lineup. Let me tell you, hearing someone sing live can really change your mind about the quality of their voice and their music. Ever since that festival, I have loved her songs and am saddened to hear of her illness. Unfortunately she is now paralyzed on one side and her friends are donating money and a benefit concert to help her cover those astronomical bills she will undoubtedly face.
I really hate to hear that one our great artists is suffering in such a manner. I am unsure of her financial situation and why she would not have health insurance for herself, but it is not doubt a shame that anyone in this country should have to go without. That may sound idealistic to some, but the reality of the situation is that this is the richest country in the world. I am very proud to be an American and I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else in this world, but let’s face some facts – the quality of life here appears to be diminishing and I point to the absence of health care for many people as a determining factor of this condition.
Sure, after I turned twenty-three I could no longer be included on my parent’s health plan so I went without for a while. When I was in graduate school, I had to go forego health insurance. At some point in many of our lives, we have to sacrifice and do without it for any number of reasons. But just because someone doesn’t have it, it shouldn’t mean that they might face financial ruin should he or she become ill.
My individual health plan is currently eating me alive, but I am gratefully insured. Thankfully, Angela Bofill has a number of friends who are apparently able to stage a benefit concert to help her with her needs. What’s happening to all of those people who won’t see proceeds from a benefit concert when they fall on hard times? It gives us all something to think about with our own situations and those of our neighbors. Our health in many ways is all we have, and our society must find better and more creative ways to assist all members in protecting it and that of their loved ones.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
www.AdrolitePress.com
www.ChandraAdams.com
The Pain of Rising Health Care Costs
Originally posted on January 2006
My individual health plan went up another $47 per month. Every week or so, I hear on the news that health care costs are going to rise and it is affecting more and more people. Here in California, one in six people are uninsured, which is higher than the national average.
There’s also the fact that I have to dish out $25 every time I visit my doctor, plus a $250 deductible on prescriptions. And it turns out that we sometimes as patients and consumers don’t know exactly if our medications are helping or hurting. Vioxx, the painkiller, turns out to be just a killer for some, since it doubles the risk of blood clots, heart attacks and strokes in those who take it, as any vioxx attorney could tell you.
If all of these additional costs sounds excessive, it is because they are. I am self-employed, and my biggest expense next to marketing is health care. Luckily for me I don’t have any significant health problems, nor do I have children at the present time. I can’t imagine the cost of health care for large families, and indeed it is easy to see why so many are going without.
Children should be guaranteed access to quality health care until they reach 18 years of age. Adults should be able to pay based on their income. That sounds like a fair distribution to me. I know it is easier to believe that everyone has to fend for himself or herself, but the fact of the matter is that if one of us loses, all of us lose.
Now I can cut back on a few movies and cd’s to meet my higher health plan cost – it will probably help me focus on getting fitter and more healthy anyway. But my heart goes out to those unable to afford good care, and I hope that our decision-makers can start to make the necessary reforms to fit the reality of those people with low incomes.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
www.AdrolitePress.com
www.ChandraAdams.com
My individual health plan went up another $47 per month. Every week or so, I hear on the news that health care costs are going to rise and it is affecting more and more people. Here in California, one in six people are uninsured, which is higher than the national average.
There’s also the fact that I have to dish out $25 every time I visit my doctor, plus a $250 deductible on prescriptions. And it turns out that we sometimes as patients and consumers don’t know exactly if our medications are helping or hurting. Vioxx, the painkiller, turns out to be just a killer for some, since it doubles the risk of blood clots, heart attacks and strokes in those who take it, as any vioxx attorney could tell you.
If all of these additional costs sounds excessive, it is because they are. I am self-employed, and my biggest expense next to marketing is health care. Luckily for me I don’t have any significant health problems, nor do I have children at the present time. I can’t imagine the cost of health care for large families, and indeed it is easy to see why so many are going without.
Children should be guaranteed access to quality health care until they reach 18 years of age. Adults should be able to pay based on their income. That sounds like a fair distribution to me. I know it is easier to believe that everyone has to fend for himself or herself, but the fact of the matter is that if one of us loses, all of us lose.
Now I can cut back on a few movies and cd’s to meet my higher health plan cost – it will probably help me focus on getting fitter and more healthy anyway. But my heart goes out to those unable to afford good care, and I hope that our decision-makers can start to make the necessary reforms to fit the reality of those people with low incomes.
Chandra Adams
Author
Shades of Retribution
www.AdrolitePress.com
www.ChandraAdams.com
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